Dating an itialian
And since I arrived, the food culture has really improved. Most Italian men don’t seem as burdened by those concerns, for some reason. S., we’re taught to be self-reliant as soon as possible, often moving out of our parents’ house at age 18, never to return. He spends more time in front of the mirror than I do!
An Italian can really get by now—10 years ago I used to struggle to find crusty bread and a decent coffee. I won’t get into the whole “” discussion, but it must be a lot easier to prolong your adolescent attitude and behavior if your society is enabling (encouraging! Then there are bills to be paid and fortunes to be made, so who has time to play cat and mouse with every pretty girl? What an American or Australian might call “childish” (a negative connotation), an Italian might call “child-like” (a positive connotation, implying something filled with wonder and closer to the essential human condition). ” Which would be considered “normal” for an Italian man, so it’s no surprise that she’s shocked when her Australian date shows up in shorts and flip-flops.
They are lucky that they are tall and muscular, unlike Italian expats here.But I think if I was still searching for a life partner, I could not settle for an Aussie—I would definitely have to go back to find an Italian man (who goes to the gym, that is). It’s actually because we find those types of games a bit silly, not to mention dishonest on some level.I hope that in the ten years that I have been away from Italy, the male attitude towards the gym has changed. Oh sure, we play those games, too, when we are in (high school).Well, I’m generalizing, but I have heard more than one American woman say, “How can I possibly date Franco? ” Logically, I guess I can see both sides of this argument.In fact, there are times when I wish I could be more “Italian” in my attitudes and behavior.
I miss my family, but I don’t think I will ever go back to Italy. Yes, we Yanks and Aussies are more pragmatic, for better or worse. I guess for an American or Australian, “normal” for man is rough and careless and…masculine.